HOW TO NURTURE A RELATIONSHIP??

                    HOW TO NURTURE A RELATIONSHIP???

As it is said, 'Man is a social animal'. Human beings since existed have been making relationships either with nature or with animals but the best bond we have ever created is within our clan.

As we evolved, the relationships became versatile BUT we learned to maintain and value them. Some of the bonds we created were for life and some never lasted. In order to survive, we learned to take our relationships along without which would we feel lonely and incomplete. 

Certainly many of us would have not come this far if those bonds were not there. THE BEST BOND WE EVER DEVELOPED IS BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN.  

Have you ever wondered WHY do you need to co-exist?? Why are you not complete without each other? The answer to this lies in our dependency on one another in some way or the other as it provides us some kind of satisfaction and happiness. 

BUT do you actually get WHAT YOU WANT from one another in return???

IF YES, then you must be a highly delightful person and a fortunate person.

BUT IF NO is your answer, then you must be doing something wrong!!

NO DOUBTS, it's impossible to figure out Who IS RIGHT and WHO IS NOT?

But we can surely analyze HOW IT CAN BE NURTURED?? 

  THE NATURAL TRAITS OF MEN and WOMEN

• Naturally, women always are derived by Love and Emotions while men are more stable and practical.
• Since it's a male dominated society,so men are out-spoken and more vocal about their thoughts whereas women are more submissive.
• WOMEN are mostly tender at heart and take decisions accordingly as compared to the practical approach of MEN.

    DO'S and DONT'S: an overview

• When a woman says: “You never care”; “You never make me happy";
•  “You never apologize”. She doesn’t literally mean that you never do any of these, this is how she expresses her feelings in the moment, so TAKE IT EASY and DON'T GET DEFENSIVE.
• MEN on the other hand, demand more space sometimes and don't like to be pushed when they are not in their frame of mind. DON'T PRESSURIZE.
• Contrary to the point above, if A WOMAN is mad at you, ENCOURAGE her to explain Why is She Mad?? and keep encouraging her to speak up until she releases and expresses all the feelings she has. 
• When she does, she will begin to feel better again and return to her usual loving self. Again, this reinforces to the fact that WOMEN NEED TO BE HEARD.  This is the secret of solving 99% of arguments.                               

                               SOME HELPFUL TIPS FOR BOTH

• DON'T HIDE ANYTHING: If one of you is not transparent about WHAT YOU FEEL then, chances are you will someday lose each other.
• BE THERE: One of you has to be there,especially, in the times of crisis. If you are not there for each other,then, you might be replaced by someone else. 
• BE MORE WELCOMING: When your other half wants to share something with you, be it sorrow or happiness, just welcome his/her thoughts.
• BE PATIENT: A successful relationship requires you to be more patient about the issues as it will help to fade away those differences with time.
• REALIZE: When arguing,we never realize; what we are saying and usually the loss is ours; if it's not realized well in time. 
• CARE: This is the most important part of a successful bond. Though we do care for each other but sometimes we just stop doing but it harms us in the long run.
• EMPATHIZE: We often ask one another How would you feel if you were at my place? Only then, we realize that the other person could be right.
• BE MORE EXPRESSIVE: We normally keep our feelings,thoughts and emotions to ourselves just not to hurt or be judged.BUT that's wrong! Learn to express your pain or thoughts!!
• REDUCE DEPENDENCY ON SOCIAL MEDIA:Curb your habit of being on the social media or the limelight all the time at the cost of a relationship. Devote time to the ones who are there with you and for you.
• LET IT GO: Some things which are not imperative in your day to day life and can be harmful for your relation just let it go!!
• BE CONTENTED: "Life is too short to be complaining" Nobody has a perfect life, so, learn to be happy and satisfied with all you have.

I hope my views will help you to be a better person who values the relationships more than ever!! 

THANK YOU!!